How do you judge a good life? By the way
you are feeling.
– Nick Z Moran
Are you happy?
When was the last time anyone asked you that? When was
the last time you asked anyone that? Most importantly, when was the last time
you asked yourself that question?
The question is rarely asked because to ask it means to
torment the soul. It doesn’t take long, playing in life’s playground, to realise
there are no happy endings here. To keep asking about happiness therefore is
like throwing raw salt onto an open wound. Much better instead to outwardly
focus on diversions and counterfeit happiness concepts such as material
possessions, career advancements, relationship status and a myriad of other
It is only when pushed that people will reveal the
hidden hope that lingers within. Deep in the wilderness of the mind, the desire
to be happy remains. There’s no getting rid of it. And every now and then, be it
during bouts of severe duress or in the hour before dawn when one wakes in a
cold sweat, it stirs, and is heard. Like a distant howl of a lone wolf you hear
its ancient lament – I am here. Come home.
Or ask a parent cradling a little one in their
arms. Ask them what they want that child to do and be when they grow up and the
answer will invariably be along the lines of – I don’t care, as long as he’s
Why has happiness become one of life’s hypocrisies? On
the one hand, when pressed, or stressed, people say they want it above all
things, then quickly push the thought back from whence it was dragged and go
about their lives, spending more time brushing their teeth than contemplating
What you have is a perverse dichotomy. On the one hand,
deep down, everyone knows that happiness is the beautiful reality. On the other
hand everything humanly possible is done to push that beautiful reality out of
mind and replace it with junk wants.
Why is that?
The reason is relatively simple. You have made yourself
forget what true happiness is and replaced it with cheap worldly imitations. In
order to continue perpetuating that illusion you ceaselessly hunt after anything
that comes to mind, any shiny thing will do, so as to suppress and push down
that which is real. It is your own version of the Wild Hunt.
The only constant to the hunt is more. More
what? It doesn’t matter. As long as it’s more than you already have. More
becomes a vicious cycle of want that pollutes a life then spreads, becoming a
mind-pandemic that ravages and pollutes everything with which it comes into
On the subject of want, D.H. Lawrence put it this way:
The wages of work is cash.
wages of cash is want more cash.
The wages of want more cash is vicious
The wages of vicious competition is – the world we live in.
A basic example of this, more for the sake of
more, principle is this. When one is hungry, for example, happiness is a piece
of bread. When one is thirsty, happiness becomes a drink of water. When
homeless, happiness turns into a roof over one’s head. Once those basics are
satisfied, happiness transforms into a more version of those things. A
need for a piece of bread is replaced by a need for hors d’oeuvres and caviar. A
glass of water becomes a need for expensive wines, and the simple roof over the
head morphs into a need for a mansion with servants.
Those who achieve their goal, and get the caviar, the
rich wines and the servants to serve them find they still feel empty and
unfulfilled. So they dream up something else that represents happiness and the
cycle starts over, the Wild Hunt continues.
For those who do not achieve the perceived level of
happiness, which is the majority, the feeling is the same: emptiness and
dissatisfaction. So both the rich and the poor ultimately share the same core
feelings. Neither is happy, neither is satisfied. Neither is better than the
other – in achievement or virtue.
One alleged meeting between Alexander the Great
and the philosopher Diogenes demonstrates this human sameness well. Alexander
reportedly found Diogenes attentively looking at a pile of human bones. The
philosopher explained, I am searching for the bones of your father – King
Phillip II of Macedon – but cannot distinguish them from those of a slave.
Animals have no such issues. Give a dog a choice between
a juicy bone and some rarefied dish whipped up by a renowned chef and the dog
will go for the bone. Offer a cat a bowl of water when she’s thirsty or a bowl
of prestigious champagne and water is the beverage of choice every time. Offer a
bird an air-conditioned cage or a branch swinging in the wind and guess which
one it will choose.
But we are not creatures, you
say. We have evolved. We think, we create, we aspire, we control. We are …
… Yes? You are what, exactly. Human? Sure, but what does
that mean? At least an animal remains true to itself. It doesn’t run around
bemoaning the fact it can’t get what it doesn’t need or a thing that is in fact
detrimental to its wellbeing. And true, you have evolved, but into what? That
you think is also true although the thoughts are way too often dubious, at best.
True also that you strive to control. You want to control everything, except the
most important thing … your mind.
The bottom line is you don’t know what or who you are.
And therein lays the reason you believe happiness remains lost to you. In
reality your happiness is not lost. It is where it has always been. And where it
will always remain. Dogs, cats, birds and nature know this. There is no stress
about it because all things are connected to the happiness source. Even a burnt
out tree is perfect. Everything is perfect, simple, uncomplicated.
When you regain the sense of your true identity,
remember who you are, happiness will once again be your natural state.
So who are you?
Simply put, you are everything. You are the creator and
the created. You are at once the infinite and the finite. You are the
conditional and the unconditional. You are a father and a son, a mother and a
daughter. A leader and a follower. You are the truth and the lie, life and
death. You are oneness and individuality, love and peace as well as war and
chaos. You are sin and corruption, goodness and honesty, ignorance and wisdom.
You are everything and you are nothing.
Your mission, as they used to
say in the popular American television series, Mission Impossible, is to
reconnect with your natural state and consequently happiness. Everything else is
meaningless. Your mission, however, is not only possible, its successful
completion is guaranteed. Take comfort in that.
You have done your absolute utmost to try and erase
Creation from your divine memory. It should be said that you have done superbly
well. Which is not a surprise. Your powers are immense. They come from Creation,
and Eternal Truth itself. Even when you turn them against yourself, they work.
But they are not so immense as to obliterate Creation. That not even you can do.
Until you wake sufficiently you will continue to suffer
under the weight of your false beliefs: that you are on your own and at the
mercy of life and circumstance. That the only creation is the one you have
accredited to your false gods and/or science, which banged your world into being
and reveals to you a molecule at a time.
Deep, deep down you know all you see here is a lie.
Deep, deep down you also know that fully reconnecting with Eternal Truth is just
a matter of time. This knowledge scares you because to reunite with your Creator
means letting go of the world you have created. And this part is true; your
world will in time be released. The two worlds cannot coexist. You need to let
go of one to be in the other.
You have chained yourself to an oppressive situation by
denying the truth. You are living a lie. For that lie to be reinforced
everything else needs to be chained along with you. And so it is – fish are
chained to water, birds to the sky, polar bears to snow, and so on.
You have turned Creation upside down. You believe the
unreal to be real and vice versa. You write inane verses and present them to
yourself as gospel. You tell yourself things like this are true:
For true and righteous people are his judgments, because
he has judged the great harlot who corrupted the earth with her fornication; and
he has avenged on her the blood of his servants shed by her.
Again they said, Hallelujah! Her smoke rises up forever
Although the above is a bastardised piece of biblical
text you can find similar statements in many of your world’s texts. Couched
differently but with the same meaning. Such writings would be highly comical if
you didn’t believe them and use them to keep yourself chained to this despair
you call life.
Do not be afraid. You have nothing but love, peace and
gentleness waiting to replace the nonsense you have been dreaming up and
It is time for you to reconsider, to stop running and to
reconnect. And when you reconnect you will understand, and when you understand
you will be living the life that is yours and only yours. You will no longer be
asking what happiness is.
Him & Me is about you clearing
the way and entering into a dialogue with your higher self (Him), and through
that communication reconnecting with your Creator, Eternal Truth.
I call that reconnection process Find Your Life.
Finding your life and happiness in this context means doing what you need
to do in order to reconnect.
process has unique aspects to it. Aspects put in place when the separation, the
disconnection or as some have termed it the Great Fall, occurred. That this
alleged action never happened is of no consequence because as long as you
believe it to be true, it will continue to be true for you. That’s where Him
comes in. He will help you undo the barriers that stand between you and Eternal
The unique aspects I refer to are personal experiences,
fears, anxieties, mannerisms and so forth that keep you from reuniting with the
grandeur of oneness and happiness.
There are also the general ego world aspects that need
to be seen truly: diversity for example. Dressed up as a good thing, ego uses
diversity as camouflage for specialness, separateness and often plain and
blatant hatred. There is diversity of skin colour, features, experiences,
language, race, creed, gender, religion, politics, laws, courts, tribunals,
restaurants, opinions, pets, alcohol, magazines, books, music and so on and so
forth. In fact, name almost anything and you’ll find several versions of it.
Ego uses diversity to splinter, separate, judge and
punish. Him, your Higher Self uses it to unite and heal.
Put yet another way, finding your life is
to work through those situations you need to re-experience, make different
choices about and resolve correctly, on your way back to reuniting with
Creation. This process is also known as undoing.